His vulgarities are against my Christian beliefs

Dear Agatha, I started a relationship with a guy who isn’t a serious minded Christian. Most of the time, we communicate through chatting and he says all sorts of romantic things. Whenever he says all these, I would want to have sex even though I am a virgin. I don’t like this because I am born again. I am planning on ending this relationship. He is very caring. He can call me up to five times a day. I love him but he isn’t a serious minded Christian which I would have loved him to be. Help me. Confused Girl. Dear Confused Girl, You aren’t being truthful here. If you aren’t enjoying his telephone sex, why are you still listening to him and accepting his online romances? It isn’t as if you are forced to listen to all that he is saying. You have the choice to disconnect the telephone or internet chat and refuse to take any calls from him since whatever it is he is doing is through chatting on the phone or internet. There is no personal contact to make you want to endure the situation at all. Besides, there is no way he would keep at it without your subtle encouragement. If you insist you don’t want that line of conversation, he would discontinue if he really values you and wants to keep the line opened for further interactions between the two of you. He is pursuing it because he senses something you haven’t been able to decode about yourself-curiosity to have knowledge of sex. Trust me, the only way you can keep that virginity of yours intact for the right man is to accept your weakness and not attempt to sweep it under the carpet. One thing you must appreciate, sex is a powerful emotions we cannot resist. It has nothing to do with our faith or religious inclination. It is a natural ache we begin to feel once we get to the age. Like all normal women, you are having yours. This is why inspite of yourself, you find yourself pulling towards the vulgarity of this man. Accepting it as a natural progression will help you define what you want from sex and life. Don’t feel guilty about it rather; resist the message embedded in what your boyfriend is saying. Open acceptance that sex is primitive to us will help you fight and filter the flit in your boyfriend’s approach. It will also open your eyes to the kind of company that is good for you and the one you should avoid completely. In addition, you could use this opportunity to teach him how to manage his desires and conduct a responsible relationship. You can through your values and new knowledge educate him on the ills you feel in his ways. Love is all about tolerance and a desire to help the other person grow. Good luck.