She can’t be pregnant after years of masturbation…

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Dear Agatha,

I am so impressed at your wise answers to people with different problems.

My close friend at school called two weeks ago concerning her marital problems.

She said that she started masturbating in 2007 when her boyfriend had sex with her. She did that to avoid sleeping with other guys after that relationship broke up. But now she is married and she is not pregnant after five months of marriage. The reason is that her husband’s sperm come out her body immediately after they made love.

Please Agatha does it mean that my friend is not productive and cannot bear children again in her lifetime? Is there other alternative? Please she is confused. Help her out, please.

Caring Friend.


Dear Caring Friend,

Your friend has no reason to worry about it, because what she is experiencing is normal. Her history of masturbation has nothing to do with what is happening to her. She isn’t alone. Many women experience such discharges each time their men ejaculate inside them, but that hasn’t stopped a lot of these women from becoming pregnant.

Like everything else about the human body, the vagina differs from one woman to the other, hence performs differently. While some are able to absorb perfectly all the semen, some don’t have that capacity, hence leak.

Besides, I am told the semen is the protective coat of the sperm. Once the man discharges, they separate. While the sperm travels to its destination, the semen comes out.

Since your friend is trying to conceive, she and her husband may try to experiment with other styles. The missionary position is notorious for making it easy for the sperm to come out of the vagina. They could adopt a position that gives the man more room to penetrate and discharge close to her uterus to make it easier for the sperm to get to her egg faster than if they have been discharged at the walls of her vagina.

Your friend and her husband can get details from books specially written to help couple to explore more intimate positions to adopt during lovemaking.

Since she is trying to get pregnant, she should refrain from standing up immediately after having sex with her husband. She should help herself by elevating her behind on a pillow for close to 20 minutes to help keep the sperm close to her womb. As a matter of fact, the pillow should be in place especially if both of them are more comfortable with the missionary position during lovemaking.

If adopting another position, once her husband ejaculates, she should stay in that elevated position to further assist the sperm perform its duty in the womb.

She should try as much as possible to avoid putting herself under needless stress. A lot of time, it isn’t the quality of sperm or the woman’s quality of reproductive health that is the culprit but the anxiety that goes into expecting the expected to happen at the end of every month. For some women, it is simply a matter of relaxing and enjoying the thrills of being made love to by her husband. A lot of things could go wrong with the woman’s body system if she fixes her mind too much on trying to get pregnant. The tension alone of expecting it to happen may send her body into knots, making it unreceptive to sperm.

A sperm needs a warm and receptive body to settle in. Once the chemicals of anxiety sets in, it becomes difficult for it to reach its destination and some who brave it all to reach it, find out that the anxiety makes the egg too tense to grow into maturity.

This explains why a woman would experience the entire natural things she is supposed to feel and still not have a baby. Anxiety can cause temporary infertility in some women.

If this is the case, she needs your help to go through this phase. Continue to encourage her to trust God and be at peace with herself. Five months isn’t too long for her to work herself up unnecessarily.

However, there is also the need for her and her husband to seek further medical help to eliminate the presence of medical problems like watery sperm or possible medical problems she may have.

Good luck.