Dear Agatha,
Please, I need urgent help over a matter, which may become a serious threat to my marriage if not handled urgently.
I got married some months ago and have been using Viagra pills to enhance my sexual life. But the danger now is if I desist from taking it for sometime, I am unable to achieve full erection. My queries are; is it good for me to keep using it? Are there side effects to it in the long run?
Concerned Brother.
Dear Concerned Brother,
Isn't the evidence of your inability to achieve full erection anytime you stay away from the pill enough proof that it has long-term implications?
Over indulgence or dependence on anything in life always comes with side effects after a long while. Nature is the only thing that gives absolute happiness and results.
The essence of Viagra is to help those with problems overcome it and not for everyday usage. All drugs are subject to abuse when overused or used in the wrong ways.
In the first place, who recommended it for you? Viagra is not an off the shelf drug like simple painkillers. It can only be used on prescription by the doctor who after thorough examination of you anatomy and history feels it is necessary to help you recover.
If it was prescribed by a doctor, for how long were you expected to use it and what was it supposed to correct?
Did you go for an evaluation after the period for which you were supposed to use it?
And if on the other hand you obtained it for yourself without the knowledge of a doctor, for how long have you depended on it? What made you to embrace it?
Viagra, though conceived as an aphrodisiac, was never intended by the manufacturers to be used everyday. As a matter of fact, it was intended for men in their prime who through aging are losing some of their vibrancy not for young men who are still agile. It was meant to keep the light going in the twilight years of couples and not for those in their dawning days.
Since you have started noticing the major symptom of its side-effect, please go to a specialist immediately and for your sake, not the chemist but a trained medical personal equipped to help you recover from your dependence on the drug as well as point you at appropriate measures to take to help you recover you libido fully.
If you don't act immediately as well as seek quality help, your marriage would be affected because sex cannot be compromised in marriage especially a nascent one as yours.
Having made the first mistake, don't allow pride stop you from correcting it. There are several natural ways of helping yourself get started. All you have to do is to use more of your imagination. Besides, you should discuss your problem with your wife who may have several ideas of how to excite you without you needing any drug to. Remember she is your wife and also involved in this matter so tell her your challenge because two are better than one.
Sometimes, the aphrodisiac we think we need or quest for can easily be supplied by our partners if only we are willing to let them invest in our solutions.
Whatever problems made you seek the solace of this sex-enhancing pill could have been resolved through the help of your partner if only you had told her.
There is nothing as stimulating as the touch of one's partner and help when it comes to lovemaking. When two people are in love and are not pretentious or suspicious there is no height they cannot achieve together in the bedroom.
As a matter of fact, sex performance enhancing drugs actually kill natural initiatives because rather than give the couple the chance of getting to discover their natural spots; marvel in the excitement of working each other up to a plateau; these drugs eliminate all these natural process of discovery and bonding because they get men in particular ready for action seconds after their consumption. All these drugs do is to give unusual strength to the man to ride without providing him with the knowledge of how to take along his partner or give himself the time to develop his act.
The failure of this drug to keep you in premium performance may actually be a blessing in disguise; blessing for you and your woman to go back in time to the beginning and to find your particular rhythm in the bedroom.
That one is able to have sex is not the same thing as being able to make love. There is a world of difference between the two. Sex enhancing drugs give its user only the ability to have sex; it doesn't develop or teach its user the act of lovemaking, which is why the natural way is still the best because it involves the mind, the spirit in addition to the physical thing.
Besides, these drugs don't come with a warning manufactures should be compelled to carry; which is users would always need to increase their dosages after a while to ensure optimum effectiveness. Unless consumption of drugs is properly managed, it could lead to addiction because after a while, recommended dosage appears to work less, which after a while prompts the user to double the recommended dosage for better results.
Sincerely, you may not need other enhancer if you bury your pride as a man to tell your wife about this challenge you are going through. At any rate, she would discover the truth by the time your performance diminishes hence your need to carry her along because it would be more difficult for you to convince her to understand with you if she discovers your problem by herself.
There is no issue in marriage that cannot be resolved amicably if couples are honest. Problems occur when one of the parties refuses to tell the other person the truth regarding issues.
If you have problems with your erection, the wise thing is to tell the woman in your life and home. Don't forget that you are not the one that suffers the consequences but this woman who would have to live with not being able to get her fill of her man.
She it is who would have to live with the dissatisfaction of not having a fulfilled sexual life in addition to attendant frustration.
For the sake of your marriage as well as peace in your home, tell her everything about yourself. For instance, she should be told how it all started and what pushed you into taking the drugs.
Not only would she appreciate the honesty, though she might be annoyed at the beginning, but at least it would prepare her for the challenge of helping you recover fully as well giving the right support to source for other cures doctors may think you need to treat your addiction.
Also, the knowledge would help her know how to direct her petition to God.
Good luck.
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