Monday, October 25, 2010

My baggy breasts irritate me

Dear Agatha, 

I am 20 years of age and have breasts size that is embarrassing me. I want my breasts to be normal size. What do I do?

Chinasa


Dear Chinasa, 

The first thing you must do is to learn to appreciate the body that God gave you or you end up with a complex that could drive you into a situation you would later regret.

At 20, you still have a long way to go in life, and one of the things you need to go far is confidence in who you are. Besides, there is no perfect size anywhere. The fabled perfect size is a creation of someone’s imagination and desire to control what others think about their bodies. Your imperfection could be another’s ideal shape.

One of the important things you need to learn in life is self-contentment. It is life’s essential kit if you want to make it in life. Don’t try to apologise for who you are else others would take advantage of it to humiliate you to tears. Life is too short and beautiful to live it in the thinking of another person.

So what if the majority says your breasts are the wrong shape and size? As long as they are a healthy pair, these are the things that make you unique. Often than not, individuality is not about the general but about the specifics. 

Unless you want to go under the knife to recreate your pair, with the right kind of bras, you can achieve the kind of looks with your breasts that you want. If they are too big, a good support bra would nicely mould them to stand firm and sexy while smaller pair can be enhanced with the right kind of padded bra. Also the cut of bras too are essential in causing the right kind of effects. If you don’t know what to do, go to a bra shop. Some of them have experts that will not only help measure your accurate size but give you useful hints on how to package your best assets as a woman. 

The delight of a woman’s body is usually not about the shape but how it is packaged. The trick of attractive packaging is to draw attention to one’s best feature and away from one’s uncomfortable zones. 

The right kind of blouses and skirts can either help accentuate what you want attention to be on. If your breasts are embarrassing you, don’t wear any blouse or gown cut that would put attention there. 

Look critically at the mirror to know your best feature. If they are your eyes, mouth or legs, learn to play them up. That way you will help build your confidence to face the cynicism that the life stage is. 

Can’t bear women’s crazy demands…

Dear Agatha,

There is this persistent problem in my relationships. Often than not the problems come from the women, I find out that it is either they are liars or making unreasonable demands on me. As a person these are things I cannot tolerate. I need your advice on how to react to these things and secondly, I need a very responsible and God fearing girl. My mobile number is 07036226165.

Hazor.



Dear Hazor, 

One thing you must get straight is the fact that there is no perfect person anywhere. You aren’t perfect yourself so don’t expect any of these women you come across to be.

Also the fact that you are having problems with all these women shows that the major issue is coming from you. All these women can’t be wrong and you right. Life doesn’t work that way. Life is a complete process of give and take.

Therefore you must examine your own contributions to what is happening to you. Who are you? Why is it so difficult for you to get along with all these women? How come you appear to be making the same kind of choice of women, those that lie as well as those who want money from you?

Is it that these are the only women you met or the fact that you are also economical with the truth when you meet them? 

Finding another woman is not much a problem as you first going back to the drawing board to find out what precisely you want in a woman and the kind of one who can meet your demands as a man. 

One, is knowing the kind of woman you want; another is finding that particular one among the kind you want who has the patience and understanding to adapt to your person. 

You also must be prepared to make a shift from the position you are in now. There is no desiring perfection in another person without you refusing to shift too.

If you don’t first clear this, you will keep meeting with disappointments in your relationships. 

Good luck.