Her Poignant Body Odour Puts Me Off

Dear Agatha,

Please, I’ll appreciate any help to solve this problem I am having with my girlfriend. I am 32, when I started dating my girlfriend, she didn’t have body odour. But she has grown too fat and now has this poignant body odour. The odour is more pronounced when we make love. The odour is not from her skin but from her person, I am getting discouraged.

Worried Man.

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Dear Worried Man,

As the man in her life, have you told her about it? Chances are she may not have an idea of what is going on at all.

Encourage her to talk about it and see a doctor. It could be a fungi or bacteria infection that simple medication can cure. However, once she sees a doctor about it, the doctor would know precisely what to.

It also could be a simple thing of not washing her person properly and not paying special attention to the things she wears underneath.

Being fat, she may not be able to wash as clean and deep as she used to when she was slimmer. However, there are several ways of ensuring her person remains prime and healthy.

One of such ways is to get rid of pubic hair. The move would ensure the place is able to breathe and ensure the absence of hair trapping sweat or discharge beads. A lot of the time, odour comes from the sweat or discharge beads trapped in the hair on the pubic areas.

Apart from scrubbing the area twice a day, in the morning and night, she should invest in feminine wash and deodorant. Washing her person once in a while with freshly squeezed juice from lime is a good and effective way of keeping fresh. It is especially recommended immediately after the monthly flow when the discharge has a different character.

Encourage her to change her under-wears as often as she can if she isn’t particularly the clean type.

Whatever the problem is, a visit to the doctor would tell what your should be.

Whatever the doctor comes up with, she needs your support and love. Leaving her now would only worsen the matter.

Good luck.

Hope Irregular Monthly Flow Means No Threat?

Dear Agatha,

I am a regular reader of your column. I thank you so much for your pieces of advice that have been solving problems of so many people. I gain a lot from reading your column. I have this problem that has been bothering me a lot.

It concerns my menstrual cycle. I started having my period six years ago. I started with five days before it dropped to three days suddenly.

I didn’t bother at the change in the number of days at the time because I assumed it was normal.

It was last year when I read your column on ovulation that I decided to go for a medical test concerning my irregular flow. When the results came out it showed I have what the doctor called "candiasis."

He prescribed some drugs that I promptly took. Despite completing the treatment, my flow has pegged at two days. I went for another text only to be told I still have candiasis.

My question now is if there is anything to worry about since my flow has remained consistent and constant every month? I really need your help on what steps to follow because I don’t want any problems with my reproductive health in future.

Ngozi.

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Dear Ngozi,

Even from experience I know that the number of days a woman flows has nothing to do with her fertility, I still suggest you go back to the doctor for further treatment. It is important you deal with this issue once and for all.

Your doctor should be able to tell you how this condition would affect you and the likely reasons it is has refused to be cured by the prescribed drugs. Sincerely, he is in the best position to give the type of assurances you require of me because I am not a medical doctor. The doctor has your medical history as well as the knowledge of what to look for and the drugs to use to alleviate the situation.

However, if you are not satisfied you have a right to a second and even third opinion provided you have the patience and time to invest in ensuring you get the answers you are looking for.

Go to a government hospital nearest to you. Despite the problems with our health sector, government hospitals still parade the best and most competent of the country’s best medical professionals.

Good luck.

What Causes Lost Of Virginity Without Blood?

Dear Agatha,

I am an ardent reader of your column and I have this problem that has been bothering me for quite a while now.

For over five years now I have been suffering from a whitish and offensive discharge from my private part. It causes me to itch terribly. I have been taking treatments from three different drugstores. Once I commence treatment, it would disappear for a month or two only to resurface after.

Secondly, I was a virgin when my fiancé deflowered me at 26.

To my greatest shame and surprise there was that no blood flow to indicate I was still a virgin as at the time he deflowered me.

I suspect that the whitish flow from my vagina may be responsible.

If not please tell me what to do concerning the whitish flow and the cause of no blood flow when I was deflowered.

Rossy.

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Dear Rossy,

Five years of living with an offensive, itchy discharge from your virginal and all you do is to go to drugstores for treatment?

What would it cost you to seek proper medical help from the hospital? What do you know is wrong with you? What types of drugs are you taking? What are you being treated of by these pharmacists running the drugstores? How have you coped with the embarrassment of the uncontrolled itches as well as the offensive odour oozing from your body?

Do you realise the implication of this delay on your reproductive health? Do you know the extensive damage you are courting by your carelessness and apparent ignorance with which you are treating this condition? Do you realise you could end up becoming sterile as a result of delayed treatment?

Granted, it could have started like all other female itches but your refusal to seek proper medical attention for good five years may have complicated the situation.

Before anything can be done, urgently seek medical attention first to know what is wrong with you and the possibility of complications arising from late and proper treatment. The fact that the problem keeps recurring after taking the prescribed drugs should have alerted you to the presence of something beyond what an off the shelf virginal tablet or cream can handle.

A woman’s body due to its peculiar nature houses a lot of discharges. The particular time of the month dictates the type of discharges that flow from the virginal. These discharges neither itch nor give off offensive odour.

Once these discharges become offensive, it is an indication that something is wrong somewhere and that the woman should immediately see her doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment.

Frankly, your worry about the lack of blood spot at your initiation into womanhood is rather misplaced. This should not bother you as much as you finding a cure to your medical condition because sooner or later your fiancé would begin to question the state of your health and hygiene as a woman.

Once he begins to, chances of you two being together is doubtful especially if he doesn’t understand the nature of such discharges.

The issue of your personal hygiene is also important and could be another reason the discharges have refused to go. If you continue to wear the same pants you have used over the years even after getting the right kind of treatment, you will suffer a relapse because some of the bacteria that give rise to these conditions can survive tough weather conditions. This may explain the continued reoccurrence of the condition after it disappears for a month or two.

Once your treatment is complete, please change all your under-wears and preferably avoid nylon pants or tight fitting trousers. They discourage ventilation into the body, thereby encouraging the growth of bacteria or fungi infection in the private region of the body.

One personal habit you must also develop is to learn to soak your under-wears overnight in clean soapy water. If you live in a not very clean environment, iron them before wearing. It will help kill all the germs that may have survived the washing process.

On the issue of blood spot during your introduction to womanhood, not all women have the privilege of showing blood. A physically active woman can have her seal broken before her initiation. The seal covering a woman’s entrance is a delicate thin cover, which can easily break under the pressure of a strenuous exercise, insertion of tampons or the use of some of the virginal tablets that may have been recommended for you to cure your discharges.

However, an experienced man would know despite the absence of blood spot, from the tone of the woman’s body that she is a virgin. Her passage would still retain its tightness.

It is in your interest you go immediately to see a doctor and make sure you go to one that has the equipment to do a proper clinical examination of your body.

Good luck.