Friday, September 18, 2009

I Can’t Bear Her Pungent Body Odour


Dear Agatha,

I have a serious problem with my woman. We have been together for almost two years now and very fond of each other.

Unfortunately, her armpit emits offensive odour. Agatha, I really love this lady in question and will not like to lose her to another man, but my problem is that of her body odour. How do I go about it? We tried so many treatments, but to no avail. She makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want to hurt her feelings for me.

Kunle.


Dear Kunle,

Sweat glands secrete the sweat and bacteria under the arm. The byproduct of the bacteria eating the sweat is the odour that it zooms off.

Armpit odour is a problem for most adults irrespective of whether they admit it or not. It usually gets worse with age. In some people, it can be so mild that deodorants aren't necessary, but in others, it can be so strong as to literally drive people away. Most people have some odour or the other, especially after exercises.

In the case of your woman, does she keep hair under her armpit? If she does, let her shave off the hair to allow ventilation in her armpit. Many a time offensive odour comes from trapped sweat beads in the hair and for someone, who sweats profusely, this could cause a major problem in the maintenance of that part of the body.

Shaving the hair off makes it easier for the place to be washed thoroughly with sponge, soap and aired. However, it should be noted that it only makes it more bearable since there is no hair to help trap more bacteria, therefore more foul smelling pits.

Odour comes from accumulated sweat beads under the armpit. These beads over time form a cake between the hair strands, which no amount of soap can get rid of.

Unlike the hair on the head, which is expose to air, the hair under the armpit is constantly under cover as a result of the design of that part of the body. This is why odour is most profound in that area of the body.

However, shaving it makes it easier for the armpit to be maintained at all times.

In addition to the prescription she is using now, she should regularly wash her armpit with fresh limejuice mixed with salt. Limejuice is effective in getting rid of stubborn body odour. She should use three times a week as starters and twice a month thereafter.

She should also invest in deodorants, antiperspirants and body spray to keep her fresh all day. And to ensure she stays fresh, she could use wipers to clean her armpit during the day to enable her apply a fresh coat of deodorant to last her through the rest of the day.

When she is at home, she should wear sleeveless tops to further aid her armpit breathe. In addition, she should change her wardrobe. Shirts that have been discoloured by sweat beads should be thrown away. Chances are if she keeps her current set of clothes, she may not be able to completely get rid of the odour.

Also encourage her to bath as often as possible and to desist from strenuous physical exercises.

Good luck.

My Love Can’t Keep Her Loyalty While I’m Away


Dear Agatha,


You are indeed a rare gem in tackling of relationships related problems. And my sincere prayer for you is that your hands would continue to be lifted higher.

I am 25 years of age in a relationship with a girl, who is 25 years of age. This girl, a secondary school holder, and I are both childhood friends. I so much love her that I promised to help her in preserving her virginity and personality until, through the grace of God, we end up a couple.

I went back to school. After a while I noticed she was having problems with effective communication. Baffled, I called her attention to the brewing problem of lack of communication within us. Initially she told me it was nothing. She was to send me a text message later that she no longer understood me. Then I had no inkling she was having an affair with another guy. During the end of that semester, I came home to find out what the problem really was. But she assured me everything was fine that she was just going through some financial hardship.

The first week I came back from school, she fell ill and was admitted in the hospital. I didn’t know the nature of her sickness, but just kept visiting her. When she came out of hospital, I was by her side, giving her all the assurances about my love for her.

When I started a vacation job, I didn’t have all the time in the world to keep visiting her as I used to. I later discovered that she became worried about my reduced visits to her, so I went again to explain why it was so. I knew I was wrong to have abandoned her so shortly after her sickness, hence I apologised to her. I honestly thought the matter was over as I went with a friend of mine the next day to her house.

While there, I attempted to take her phone, but she quickly grabbed it from me. I didn’t understand that she was trying to hide all the romantic messages on her phone as I wrongly assumed she was still upset with me over dearth of visits to her.

This reaction also triggered curiosity in me, hence led me into tricking her to part with the phone. It was at that point I discovered the real reason for her refusal to allow me go through it. I got to read all the text messages they both exchanged. Needless to say, I was very disappointed because she is the only girl I have and love. I also discovered that the affair has been on for two months.

I need your advice and help in this matter, because I love her so much and don’t want to lose her. But if it’s God’s will, I just must move forward and find my own soul mate.

Okafor.



Dear Okafor,

The moment a woman makes up her mind to have an affair outside her relationship, there is little the man in her life can do to make her change her mind unless she is ready to. This is because unlike men who find it easy to drift in and outside a relationship, it isn’t that easy for a woman unless she is morally bankrupt. This is not saying women don’t keep multiple relationships, but not as rampart as men do.

Since you know about it and love her so much to want to continue, call her attention to your discovery. Ask her why she did what she did. The distance or fear of the unknown may have caused her to do what she did. While none of this is an excuse, her response would, however, give you an insight into her person as well as her disposition to life.

In addition, it will help you to evaluate the depth of her feelings for you as well know the area to concentrate on in the relationship especially if you decide to continue.

One of the major challenges for her may come from the imbalance in your educations. Therefore, if your desire is to have her as your mate, encourage her to go back to school to help her get over the suspicion or complex that you will never find her worthy of you due to her limited education. You may not think it is a problem at all, but for a woman who has a complex problem, whose mind is always making up stories about the man, she will always find reasons to either nag or misbehave on account of what she suspects to be true.

While the argument may subsist that a suspicious mind will never be appeased by anything, sometimes, engaging that person in a more productive venture does manage it to a large extent. There are several part-time programmes she can enroll for.

However, if her reason has to do with money, then you have to be careful to avoid being hurt later in life. For such a woman who puts money on the front burner, nothing will ever be enough to appease her greed for money. If you discover her reason for dating the other man has to do with money, be careful because there are no guarantees that she will stay faithful to you in future, since there is always someone with more money in sight.

With such a woman, love isn’t always enough to keep her happy, so don’t defer a decision you have to make now to the future.

In situations like this, it is always best to resign yourself to the plans of God for you. There is no way both of you can be together if God has decreed otherwise, but if He planned for you two to end up as an item, He would help both of you overcome this challenge.

Good luck.