Lonely Heart

Dear Agatha,

I am David, 27 years of age; need a sincere lady from any part of the country. Any interested lady should call or text me on 08057276371, no beeping please, or should e-mail me on, ••princedave4u2004@yahoo.com••

David.

I Urgently Need To Get Better Look

Dear Agatha,

Please I have oily skin, pimples and spots. In less than two months I will be getting married. Please recommend cleansers and creams that will help me improve on my looks.

Worried Bride to Be.

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Dear Worried Bride To Be,

I cannot recommend creams for you here, because I don’t know your précised skin type as well as the reasons for your break out. It might be best for you to see a dermatologist.

But one thing I would tell you is to invest on good cleansers after you have seen a dermatologist. Also ensure you eat plenty of fruits and vegetable because a lot of time some of our skin problems come from what we eat and caring for the outer skin alone in most cases don’t really clear the problems.

For your wedding day, ask a cosmetologist for help. There are very good concealers that would cover up all your blemishes making you radiant on your special day.

Good luck.

Body Odour Is No Incurable Disease

Dear Agatha,

God bless you for the great job you are doing for humanity.

Referring to the article on body odour, you have said it all. I just want to send my piece of modest advice, which works for me.

In addition to what you have said, she should use original medicated soap like Tura soap, which I use. She should ensure it is mildly wet and rub it thoroughly under her armpit, allowing it stay for about five minutes prior to having her shower. After her shower, she should rub it again under armpit to supplement cream. It is very effective if she could get the original one.

Ca.

Before Her Cold Attitude Sends Me Packing…

Dear Agatha,

I read your articles and I must say you have been doing a wonderful job, more grease to your elbows. I am 26 years of age, dating a lady, 24. I love her so much, but I am having a little problem with her, making doubt her love for me. The issue is, she finds it difficult to create room for communication, especially when we are apart.

I have tried as much as I can to talk to her about it, but each time I do, she always tells me her battery is flat and she doesn’t have my number by hand. She promised to change when I once told her not to give me that excuse again. However, after that she travelled for three days without calling me. I tried to call her, but her phone was switched off, as if that was not enough, when she came back, she didn’t bother to call me.

When I went to her office and she saw me, she rushed to hug me, but I ignored her. I told her my reason for coming was primarily to find out if she is back since I was very worried about her.  I left after telling her my reason for coming.

Agatha, the truth of the matter is that she was dating someone when I met her. Though she told me she wasn’t in love with the guy, but going by her attitude, I am confused about and don’t know what to think anymore. I really need your advice on what to do, because as it stands now, I have been rejecting her calls and even told her not to bother disturbing me again.

Smart.
 

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Dear Smart,

The bit about her not calling you often is still something you can both manage and work at, because many of us are still battling ignorant about the potency of effective communication in a relationship.

However, she erred terribly by not telling you she has returned from her trip.

In all, it still doesn’t say much about her feelings for you, which is why you must approach this issue with caution and wisdom to avoid making a hurried decision.

Until the point you went to her office to find out if she is okay, she may not really appreciate why she must call you as often as you want her to do. But you attitude must have communicated something to her for her to be calling you as she is doing now. It shows that she cares and isn’t willing to lose you.

This is the time for you to make her comprehend your position on this matter. Accept her call and demand for a meeting. In most cases, this I have found out from very personal experience, people who are not in the habit of calling others don’t think anything is wrong if those special persons in their lives don’t call too. They just accept it as part of life because they are not used to calling others.

So getting worked up over the matter won’t change a thing except to make her understand the negative thoughts it is conjuring in your head about her sincerity to you.

Let her understand how you really feel and how you think she is dating another man as well as the possibility of using you as a fall back plan should anything go wrong in her other relationship.

Also demand to know how she would feel if you not only stop calling her, but decide to be very indifferent to her? Once you stop playing up the issue of her refusal to call and concentrate on all the other implications of her cold attitude, she would be forced to have a rethink. Let her know how you felt coming to her office and meeting her there while you were worried all the time about her safety. To drive home your point, ask her, how she would feel or think if you were the one that did that to her or not calling her.

Telling her in clear terms that you think her attitude has to do with someone else in her life has the ability to either make her sit up or collapse the relationship entirely.

Whatever happens, it is best you both have a discussion first.

Good luck.