Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Religious Bias May Cancel Our Planned Unity


Dear Agatha,


Thanks for your advice to me. I appreciate all you said. My main problems are my parents, being their eldest female child, are pressurising me to marry. The second problem is the fact that the guy I am dating right now is a Muslim. I honestly don’t know how to present him to my parents. He is also not helping matters as he keeps telling me to begin to adapt to the ways of his religion. Whenever he says this, I never fail to tell him that I expect him to change to my way of religion and not me changing to his. Despite this we are very much in love.

On August 24, this year, I had a revelation about him that is really troubling my mind. I wept for him because in that dream, he had dated a lady with an unusual spirit who in turn has caused a lot of havoc in his life. He kept the secret from me all this while until this dream.

When we started dating, I told him to tell me everything about his life, but this particular one, he kept as a secret. I am confused.

I don't know what to do. I don't have any friend to confide in beside you. Please help me out.

Victorious.


Dear Victorious,

This is a very challenging situation, one in which you have to be highly alert spiritually if you are to help this man resolve his problem.

The immediate issue now is to help him get out of the tangle his dating the wrong woman has gotten him into. Whether you both agree to shift to one religion or not, unless the spiritual control that other woman exercises over him is broken, there is little hope of you two being happy together.

God that showed you that revelation means for you to use it to help him out of the abyss he has unwittingly walked into. The thorny challenge of the religion you or he eventually adopt, may be laced into this problem.

Therefore, get him to tell you more about the woman and how deep is the damage she has done to his life. It is pertinent you know the strength of your opponent as well as the right arsenal to use to get victory.

In some cases, it is a simple case of going to apologise for any wrong done. Let him tell you what promises he made to her and how they both ended the relationship. If you want to do a good job, it is necessary you remain fair minded especially to the woman who isn’t there to state her own side of the story.

What did you man do to provoke her anger and subsequently the punishment? Doubtless, people with familiar spirit cannot be trusted, the fact remains that in some cases, they fight their victims on account of the wrong done them.

Let him understand at this point, it is in his interest to tell you the whole truth. And if he doesn’t deserve the treatment but done on account of him leaving her, then it is a case of you praying to God to have mercy and to intervene on the side of your man. That he is a Muslim or not has nothing to do with you going to God to help for the simple reason that He gave you the vision.

This is one battle you cannot win on your own, you need help. Confide in your pastor who is in the best position to support you with prayers.

he may have to go for deliverance because if he slept with her during the relationship, a covenant has been entered into by the two of them. the knowledge of sex between a man and a woman is one of the most powerful covenants between a man and woman because it is the one act that touches the three tiers of man; the body, spirit and the soul. This is why it is very easy for a woman who is out to destroy a man to do so easily because she has access to his spirit and soul.

The woman being the recipient of his seeds inside her body has extra powers to use this is advantage against the man.

This is why unmarried couples are told to zip up. Sex makes it easy for any woman to control the life of any man she has had contact with.

This hold can only be broken through the mercy and grace of God. Insist, if he loves you, he should go for deliverance else, in addition to your religious differences, you will be confronting a spiritual battle your relationship may not survive.

It is only after you conclude this, you can now address the issue of your religious differences.

A lot would depend on how much you both love each other and how strong your religious feelings are. If you are both too involved in your religion to let go, it might be very difficult to push because without a good unity between the two of you, the relationship will never be able to withstand the expected opposition from your different families.

So the issue you both should first sort out is how much your love for each other is worth. It is only this that would determine the sacrifices, compromises as well as the quality of your loyalty to yourselves. Sincerely, this is a decision nobody can make for you because when it comes to the issue of love and happiness, it is has the logo of privacy. What works for someone may not work for you.

This is the point for both of you to face the truth about yourselves, religions as importantly your feelings for each other. By the time you aggregate all these, you will know what to do.

Just stay close to God who knows and sees everything.

Good luck.