What’s wrong with missionary style of lovemaking?

Dear Agatha,

Please I want to know if there is/are any harms to my pregnant wife or our unborn child when we make love using the missionary style. That’s the only position my wife can use. Please note that the pregnancy is in its seventh month going to eighth. 

Secondly, is it true that a pregnant woman must keep having sex to aid her delivery? Finally, I do appreciate how you have been a blessing to virtually everybody that has come across your column. 

God will continue to enrich and enhance you in all aspects of your life. 

Afiz.

Dear Afiz, 

No. There is no harm to your wife and unborn child in the position you assumed during lovemaking. The key word is her comfort. As long as she is happy and comfortable with it, there is nothing to fear. Lovemaking during pregnancy is premised principally on the comfort of the woman. Even though doctors think certain positions are risky for a woman to assume during pregnancy, the fact remains that nobody but the woman can determine which position she and her unborn baby are most comfortable with. 

All you have to do is to constantly ask her the position she wants, the fact that she is comfortable with one position today doesn’t mean she would be next day. What is required of you at all times is to be very gentle with her on account of the baby inside of her. 

Yes, regular sex is advised for a woman during pregnancy. The argument is that it aids both mother and child during delivery. Regular sex during pregnancy helps to keep the birth canal opened for easy passage of the baby during labour. However, the safety of both mother and child remains paramount. Once she complains of any discomfort at any level of the intimacy, the wise thing to do is to withdraw.    

Good luck.