How do I approach a woman?

Dear Agatha,

I’m 23 years old single man. I don’t have a girl friend at this age. I’m an introvert and don’t know how to approach a lady. 

I very much desire to have one but find it extremely difficult to approach a girl.

Please what should I do?

Concerned Boy.

Dear Concerned Boy,

Learn to relax and be yourself. Don’t try to impress any woman or get scared of any for that matter.

Always remember that relationship between a man and woman is a natural progression in life. It is as basic as the food we eat or the other things wired into our DNA. There is no running away from it. If animals in the wildforest have evolved their method of sighting and developing a relationship with the one they want, how much more a human being equipped with advanced knowledge and attitude?

Yes, I would be the first to concur that a woman can be intimidating to a man who isn’t sure of himself or what he wants from life but this is only a camouflage for her true feelings. The thing about life is either a yes or no.

The fact that God doesn’t appear to answer  every of our prayer request to Him, doesn’t mean people should stop praying to Him for assistance and provisions.

Life is sectioned into time and seasons which means it is enveloped in the principle of perseverance.

No responsible young woman will instantly jump at your offer for a date immediately you make it. The ideal thing is for her to play at being difficult. Even the animals do that very often. Sometimes, it takes a whole mating season for the female to capitulate to the male.

Whether you do it now or later, you will eventually need to approach a woman for a relationship. Unless sworn to celibacy, when the time arrives for you to have your own family, you will definitely need a woman to start a family with.

To avoid beginning on the wrong foot, never tell a woman you are meeting for the first time, that you love her. To say that shows a man who isn’t serious and absolutely careless. Love is too serious a word to be used at first sight.

Begin by appreciating the unique quality in the woman you want to be friends with. There is always a quality that is obvious, you cannot hide or deny. This is what you should play on the first few days of your meeting.

A relationship is about depth not, frivolities, like looks which are perishables. There is no judging a book by its cover. You have to know something about the character of the woman you are asking out before you can declare or determine what you really feel. More than anything else you have to be able to communicate as friends.

Remember this woman isn’t going to be like any other woman in your life but the one you will be spending a lot of time with. Therefore, it will help to find out what you both share in common or the bond that will keep the relationship going forever.

It is also important you have a focus of the kind of woman that will help you to be happy. Since you are shy, you need a woman who has the strength of character to drag you out of your shell; whose wit will help you relax and laugh. If you are temperamental, you cannot afford to date a woman whose fury is as red as yours.

So many things go into a relationship. It will be in your interest to first know what you want, to be able to identify the right woman for you. The fact that there are a lot of women out there doesn’t mean that any woman would fit into your plans. It is the reason God created us all differently. Like our shoes and clothes sizes, you have to find out the right woman among the several you come across everyday.

The right kind of woman will simply make you very whole.

Good luck.

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