His mum wants me out of his house

With Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com, Tel: 08054500626 Dear Agatha, I have a serious problem and very confused. The mother of my boyfriend is my source of concern. I knew his mother from the beginning and then she did approve of me. She also cared and gave me money to start business. Along the line, we travelled together. There we had a little problem and from that point her love for me turned to hatred. Now she is insisting I leave her son alone, but it is impossible because I am already engaged to her son, who is insisting he will marry me irrespective of what his mother thinks. I want you to help me as an elderly person. Worried Girl. Dear Worried Girl, I don’t know what happened between you and your fiancé’s mother; the fact that she initially welcomed and cared for you is enough reasons for you to try to make amends. No matter what she might have done to you, as the mother of your husband to be, you owe her absolute respect. Go and beg her even if she is the one that offended you. Saying you had a misunderstanding with her is an indication that you are a little bit off the track. If she were your mother, would you announce a disagreement between you and your mother to the world? Irrespective of what happened, go and beg her for forgiveness. Ensure you make peace with her if you hope to enjoy the love and support of your husband. Don’t allow his obvious disobedience to his mother wish against him marrying you blinds you to the need to beg her. This is because a time would come when mother and son will make peace; you will end up being a victim of yourself should you wait until that happens. Plead with your boyfriend to go and appeal to his mother on your behalf rather than encourage him to disobey his mother. It would have been a different thing if from the very beginning she didn’t take to you, but that she liked and provided for you at the beginning makes your care peculiar. Remember that you will also be a mother someday. How would you feel if your child goes against your wishes? See her opposition now as a blessing in disguise; it will help you learn more about the temper, thoughts and values of the family you are getting married into. There is no way your husband will not have some of the traits that brought about this disagreement. A lot of how you will progress with your husband along life’s journey will come from this experience. Challenges will always come, but how we handle them is what makes the most difference in life. Now you know what to avoid when dealing with her. For whatever it is worth, you are the younger one, so go and beg her. In our culture, adults never go wrong. It is always the burden of the younger one to beg for forgiveness when a disagreement occurs between an elderly person and a younger person. Good luck.