Dear Agatha,
I am 15 years of age. There is this boy I have feelings for. I know it isn’t love; just my hormones playing up.
Please how can I control my hormones so I can concentrate on my education?
Debby.
Dear Debby,
You are right to be apprehensive because at 15, you not only risk your present but your future as well if you get into trouble dating a boy.
You are at that delicate age when most young girls begin to crave for their first emotional experiences. It is that pencil thin line that divides failure from success; stability from instability in one’s life. Available statistics put the ages of women that became mothers during their teenage years at between 15 and 17.
If this is anything to go by, is the period in a young girl’s life when she has to be extra careful by avoiding commitment to any boy or man.
Right now, there are too many things happening inside your body that you have no control over. This is in addition to the expectations of everybody for you. As a young girl, your parents are already planning how to help you succeed in life; the reason you are in school.
The society too is already planning the hope of a better tomorrow into your dreams.
Your friends are also including you into their future plans. Everywhere you turn to, everyone is expecting you to graduate and get a good job as well as a husband.
This is why you must not give any boy the opportunity to punctuate your dreams in life. You have too much going for you as a young and promising girl.
At your age, the hormones can really be a problem. This is because you are still developing and acquiring all that you need to be a complete woman. Until you are ready for the consequences of sex or relationships, you are still a working progress in the hands of Mother Nature who is preparing your body for its future functions.
The easiest way for a young girl to get derailed in life is get involved with men or boys out of season. At 15, you lack the technique and knowledge of self control. As a result of the predominance of the hormones cascading your entire system, you risk making costly mistakes that you may never be able to overcome in life.
So many young girls that fell under the influence of their hormones ended up becoming premature mothers and school drop outs. Not every girl makes a come back in life after that mistake. While some parents are forgiving; others are not. They simply allow the girl live with the choice she has made and the consequences. How would you feel seeing your friends making successes out of their lives while you are busy tending to a child whose father has gone ahead with his education or worst still one whose father denied responsibility?
Boys will always come with different promises because you are just like that beautiful and promising young butterfly that has just emerged from the larva. Every boy and man sees in you a fresh beauty as well as innocence. The attention can be intoxicating but not if you see them as predators; who after getting what they want from their prey, leave her used and empty.
Men will always be part of your life so don’t hurry into any relationship. If this boy wants, you, let him wait until you are mature and in full control and understanding of your emotions.
Besides, there are so many kinds of emotions often mistaken for love. At 15, it can be a crush; something that makes your heart squeeze with some excitement. What this means is that you are a normal female and not that you are ready for a relationship. This is a process that prepares you for the more mature emotions later in life; when you know that a certain kind of man has the powers to make you weak on your knees while nothing happens when you are with even the more handsome man on earth.
What you feel is a lesson by Mother Nature to help you understand the dynamism of the human adults.
The lesson here is to study him with a view of knowing what kinds of men tug at your heart. The idea here is to know how to avoid being too close to these kind of men until you are old enough for the challenges of a relationship.
What this stage is teaching you is; while you can afford to relax in the company of certain kind of men, you cannot afford to take the risk of being too close to men like the one you have feelings for to prevent a situation you cannot help. This is amplified by the simple fact that despite not being too keen on him, you still find yourself pulling towards him.
The fragility of your resistant power makes it possible for this kind of man or any man for that matter to persuade you to do something you didn’t plan on doing. This is why you must generally never allow yourself to trust any man sufficiently to be alone with him.
Having this boy in your life now would make him get close to you. A harmless kiss when nobody is watching could result into a full scale action that might just derail you forever.
Don’t get me wrong; what you feel is perfectly normal but you must stay clear of him for the sake of the very bright future you desire and which is ahead of you.
The woman’s body was designed by God to bear the evidences of the act of a man and woman hence He puts the responsibility of choice on the shoulders of the woman. Unfortunately, when the hormones are heavily on parade; they make such wise decision difficult to make. If older women who should know are still falling prey to the ways of men; how much more you, a child who lacks deep comprehension of what the whole thing is?
Please, keep him, for now, at a distance by concentrating more on your studies. Make your education your major concern for now.
Good luck.
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