I need help with sexual intimacy

With Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com, Tel: 08054500626 Dear Agatha, What is the difference between sex and love-making? I am confused. I have read what you’ve written on the topic but I am still confused. I want to be able to make my husband happy. I don’t want him going outside our home for any fun. Please be my sex teacher. Alero. Dear Alero, There is a world of difference between sex and lovemaking. Anybody can have sex but only few people know the magic behind lovemaking. Just as it is true that not every couple know what lovemaking is. Sex is like glancing through a book while lovemaking is reading through a book and paying attention to the last details. Our interpretation of the act is what makes one stop at sex and another at lovemaking. Often times, men and women think once a man can be intimate with a woman, it makes him an expert in the act of intimacy whereas, it takes more than the actual act to make it a memorable experience. If you want to make the difference in your marriage, give freedom to your imagination to run wild. And for a woman who wants to give her husband the best, don’t pretend or be shy in telling him what you want to do as well as what you want from him. Often times, women shy away from the idea of appearing too exposed when it comes to the issue of sex. If only women realise that once in the bedroom with a man, there is no morality. A woman who seeks to keep her man in line and doesn’t want another woman taking her place must be willing to give him the full benefit of being married. Being prim and proper isn’t for the bedroom; she should be a mix of naughty and mischievous. She should be daring and bold in getting what she wants from her man. As a married woman, you must come to the full realisation that you don’t have any apologies to offer to anybody for being one. You must explore every avenue your gender, age and position as a wife provides for you to explore the mystery of sex. Perish the Sunday School teaching about sex being for procreation. It is more than that! It is both a recreational and bonding tool. It is also a weapon a wise woman uses in reminding her man where the real power in a marriage is. It is a weapon a woman should use in bringing her man to his knees whenever he strays. Women who fight over their men don’t know the power they have through love-making. So from this early stage in your marriage, make up your mind to be wild and experiment when in the bedroom with your husband. Give him something to always take away with him when going out or traveling as well as something to look forward to. Keep him guessing what the menu will be for the day. This way, he cannot predict if he is coming home to a normal session or a wild one. Don’t forget that you have been licensed to do whatever you want with him in the bedroom. Be his commercial sex worker; do what you think would make it impossible for him to look anywhere. You should do this through detailed exploration of his body, make his entire body, from his scalp to the sole of his feet your canvass. From his response you will know when you have hit target. Store the information in your memory for future use. Such knowledge is always handy when there is a disagreement in the home front. It helps, in a naughty way, to resolve issues that would have taken longer to settle. A word of warning though; good sex go hand in hand with respect. A woman maybe the best in bed but without respect for her husband, she will not enjoy her marriage. Good luck.