Re: I want a child of my own

Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com, Tel: 08054500626


Dear Lady T,
In addition to the great advice Auntie Agatha has offered, please kindly allow me to offer my own little experience, and results of various studies.
It will be nice and very productive, if you can pay a little more attention to your spiritual life. Use this opportunity to draw closer to God through Christ Jesus. Pray everyday, at least 10 minutes between 12am and 1am, pray like Hannah, don’t voice out your petitions. One difference between God and Satan is that Satan cannot read the heart: that is why silent prayers are more potent, since he won’t know where you are coming from.
Visit some anointed, tested, and trusted men of God and let them pray with you.
Remove your mind from desperation, anxiety and how bad your situation is. There are people out there you are by far better than, at least, from your write up you are not to be blamed for the situation. Flexing about the situation can only cause the release of counter-productive hormones; that will damage your body and worsen the situation, leading to more complex abnormal behaviour. So, try and relax to avoid messing up and destabilising the normal functions of your body and reproductive system.
Whenever despair, desperation and anxiety flood your mind, for it must come, wave them aside by telling yourself things like: “Is it a must that every one must have children?”, “Is having children the main purpose of my existence?”, “The main purpose of my existence is to serve God, improve my quality of life and those of people around me”, “having a child is a privilege not a right.” Tell yourself these to resist the demon of worry, but that doesn’t mean you will stop working quietly, silently and seriously towards having your own child.
If people are mounting pressure on you, overcome by demonstrating acceptance of your situation as well as confidence in the abilities of your God to do all things. If you give people clue you are bothered about your situation, they will bother you the more, but if you show them that it doesn’t matter, every body will allow you be. After all, this is 21st Century; how you live your life is no one’s business, as long as you are not causing anyone pains.
Reduce the frequency of your intercourse with your husband a bit to once in every three to five days. Since the doctors said you and your husband are all right, it means you are wearing your husband down with frequent sex demand, which is making that healthy semen lack quality. Allow his body to build quality sperms, thick and milky, which happens every three to five days and can shoot down any woman both fertile and infertile alike by faith.
Have sex more during your ovulation (I think Auntie Agatha said that), two days before and two days after. I hope you can pinpoint your ovulation?
For the premature ejaculation, make sure you have an orgasm or two before your hubby goes in.
Concerning semen coming out of your system after action, I have to humbly add, my personal study has shown that this malady is more common in women that are not fully aroused, wet and genitally ready before intercourse. When a woman if fully aroused the end of the birth canal, where it joins with the cervix (uterus/womb) tips downwards and forms a little loop or cup, ready to take the semen. I have watched a video on how this happens. But if the woman is not fully aroused this place is just relaxed and straight when semen comes it is easy to slip back, especially if the woman stands up.
So allow yourself to get aroused, very wet, get into the action, mind, body, and soul, and if possible, have an orgasm or two before the main cuisine. Studies have shown that the various fluids (juices) women secrete/release during foreplay/orgasm stage helps the semen to have enough swimming pool space to swim in while rushing to meet the ovum/egg. It is simple, liquid flow well and longer on a wet surface than on a dry surface, which tends to absorb them up or block their flow. As well, they have the correct ph value, texture etc for various varying body conditions, to aid conception by preparing the way for the mighty semen to pass. The vaginal wall has been found to absorb semen.
In fact sex selection techniques are based on pinpointing ovulation and manipulating the characteristics of these juices women secrete. So allow yourself to get in the mood, relax and enjoy the show, it is one of the ways nature pays women back for the pains they go through at childbirth, before long one or two beautiful bundles will be whimpering and smiling in your arms.
The best position for conception, in addition to placing a pillow under you in missionary position is the notorious doggy style or going from behind. This offers the deepest penetration, thereby the deposition of the semen as close as possible, sometimes even directly inside the uterus. Studies have shown that missionary position, no matter how deep, causes the deposition of the semen outside and underneath the mouth of the cervix. The downwards-bended position already assumed by you in this position, offers a steep slope for the semen to easily flow downwards, and easily into the uterus, especially if you maintain the position for five to 15 minutes after ejaculation, without immediate penile withdrawal.
But no matter what in every action some amount of seed will still leak out but these are by far very irrelevant to the quantity that has already gone in.
Pay attention to your body too, eat more fruits, healthy fluids like fresh juice, vegetables and less salt, carbohydrates, fats and these chemically processed foods that are now in vogue in Nigeria. Exercise 30 minutes of brisk walking three times a week is okay. If you come back after this, you feel so refreshed as if drained of excess baggage and stuff, it feels great, eases stress and lowers blood pressure.
Let your husband eat more fruit also at least one apple per day, the sperm is made basically of vitamins, hormones, with some body protein and little fats/oil. That is why it works wonders as facial cream.
Fruits and vegetable loving people have very healthy and physically beautiful kids. Cook vegetable soup more often, and eat it with garri mixed with soybean powder (1 cup of garri to 2 cups of soybean), they works wonders on the body.
But, above all these, God still holds the say in what we have or have not (Romans 9:15-16), plead for His kindness and faithful mercy everyday.
Finally and truthfully, remember, having a child isn’t a must it is just a privilege some of us may not obtain. So don’t let it stop you from enjoying the sweetness of life. For definitely I tell you, life is good.
Collins.