She has embarrassing dentition

Dear Agatha, May God bless you for the good job you are doing. I am a man of 28 years of age, dating a lady of 23. We love each other so much and I intend to make her my wife soon but what I don’t like about her is her teeth, she has brown teeth and when I asked her the cause of it, she told me that she grew up in the village where nobody taught her to brush her teeth. Agatha, I want to take her home to meet my parents but want to do something to whiten her teeth before she meets my family. A friend of mine advised me to take her to a dental clinic where she will have her teeth polished but I don’t know if it will work. That is why we decided to seek for your help to know if there’s any solution to this issue that makes it difficult for my girlfriend to smile or laugh in public. I know that her good character matters most but the solution to this challenge also matters a lot to us too. Arinze. Dear Arinze, Yes, there are chemicals that can whiten the teeth but your best bet remains the office of a dentist. Beyond the ability of the dentist’s chemical, be careful in your bid to get her teeth sparkling not to further hurt her. if care is not taken, you may end up destroying whatever confidence she has in herself especially if she thinks you may leave her if not perfect solution is found for her challenge. It is therefore important that you conceal from her your worries about the condition of her teeth. After all, you saw the state of her teeth before asking her out. Therefore, you should not be overtly bothered about what people would say about her. I say this to avoid you being disappointed if the stains are the kind that cannot be completely eradicated. She needs your strength and encouragement to go ahead with her life. This is because a lot of people would take their cue from your reactions to her condition just like she too would. But the moment you begin to experience embarrassment, treat her with a feeling of rejection around people, you make it impossible for her to grow the kind of confidence every woman needs to make her home work or give her husband the kind of peace to be happy in the marriage. This is why you must be very clear in your intentions towards her. Ask yourself, this all important question, what if the stains cannot be vanished from her teeth, would you still want to have her permanently in your life? Would you gloss over her good qualities and let go of her because of this problem? Do you have what it takes to love her unconditionally? I ask all these questions to help you place the important things in the first burner because in marriage, certain things are more important than what one’s looks are. True love must be brave enough to overcome physical challenges. Inner beauty and attributes are most vital in procuring a happy and stable marriage. For the sake of both of you, honest answers to these questions are more important than the issue whether or not her teeth are of the right colours. It is only after you find the right answers to these questions that you should consider taking her home to your family. The state of her teeth may just be God’s way of helping you realize the important things about life. Good luck.