He desires me to always take the lead

Dear Agatha, I’ve noticed a certain kind of behavior in my boyfriend that I don’t understand at all. If I ask him about it, he gives excuses. The thing is that we both agreed to wait until our wedding night but we still indulge in a little romancing every now and then. My problem with it is that whenever we are kissing, he often asks me to be on top. Granted, he’s a foot taller than I am and bigger than me, does that mean he can’t stay on top of me? He respects me a lot. Whenever we are kissing and my bra strap slips, he puts it back without fondling my breasts. Can you explain why he doesn’t like to be the dominant one? Puzzled Girl. Dear Puzzled Girl, We all come with different ways of performing the same task. Since you are both determined to go to your marital bed unsoiled, this is his way of ensuring he doesn’t go against the vows you both made not to sleep with each other until your wedding night. Asking you to be on top when you both indulge in your little romance is giving you absolute control of the situation. When a woman is astride a man, she can control the pace and everything that comes with being intimate with a man. What your boyfriend is doing is to give you the chance to back out of any situation once you are no longer comfortable with it. Nature has designed the woman to accommodate and bear the weight of any man when it comes to the issue of lovemaking. Even if he is giant, and you a dwarf, when it comes to intimacy, you will still be able to carry his weight beautifully well. So it has nothing to do with whether he is taller or bigger than you. It’s like being pregnant. No matter the weight of the child, the womb will always find ways of accommodating the foetus. That is the way Mother Nature has designed the ability and strength of the woman. But your man is only being considerate of your feelings and wishes. He is aware, if he takes absolute command, he may not be able to control the outcome of your intimacy. Men by nature get easily stimulated and once fully charged may find himself going beyond the limits you have set. Being on top of you, gives him the unrestricted advantage of smooth entrance even before you know what is happening. But if you are on top, without you moving to give him the advantage of entry, it would be difficult for him to gain access. Therefore, rather than pick a fight with him over this, applaud him for his devotion to you. Frankly, not many men would be that considerate for the feelings and decision of the woman in their lives. That he is willing to help you keep a promise you made is commendable. For some women having a man on top of them is enough to make them go out of control. Learn to trust in his judgment. He means well for both of you. Good luck. -To share your problem with Auntie Agatha, send and email to gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com Tel: 08054500626