I need a man to share my life with

With Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com Tel: 08054500626 Dear Agatha, Words alone cannot describe God’s awesomeness in your life. You are a blessing to this generation. I know you have the ability and capability to do this for me. Please Agatha, connect me with an individual, home or abroad for a union. I am 39 years, with two girls both are in the university with the first one in final year. I work in one the financial institutions as a contract staff and comfortable with my earnings. I have never been married in my life. I had those girls for the same man after the loss of my parents when I was much younger and without direction, due to his maltreatment and no one to caution him, I ran away leaving the kids for him. Since the girls are in the university both of us have been caring for them from our different locations. He is based in Zaria and works with a bank. I live in Lagos. If the children are on vacation, they come to spend their holidays with me. Presently, I am alone because they have gone back to school. It’s really pretty lonely staying alone. All I have are small boys wanting a relationship with me; something I oppose to. I want matured man for marriage. I know you can do this for Agatha, please. The man can be a divorcee or a widow with children who might not want children again. Please help me scrutinize any man who responds to my request. Lonely Woman. Dear Lonely Woman, Like we discussed on the phone, I don’t match-make. I am a firm believer in people meeting and making their own choices. But knowing and having experienced loneliness before, I know what you feel and how the days can appear very long if it lacks the presence of a soul-mate. It is a good thing you have eliminated the kinds of men you will never date. It helps to keep you focused and maintain your respect as a woman. This is important but beyond the issue of finding the right man to share your life with is how you can be happy with yourself. The right man will only make you complete but cannot give you absolute happiness if you don’t learn how to interpret your happiness. Knowing what constitutes pleasure to you will help you to recognize the qualities to look out for in any man that comes your way. The challenge here goes beyond the marital status of the man you are looking for. He must have that something extra special to keep you happy just as you must have the knowledge of what he wants to stay happy with you. A woman or man begins the plan of a happy home before meeting the right person. At 39, you are no longer a green spring; by now you should have long buried idealism for realism. You cannot afford to make mistakes at this delicate stage in your life; you must be very clear about what your responsibilities and duties are to the man you want to share your life with just as you must be certain of the least you can go in any kind of relationship. This is where you need to focus your interest; the inner treasure of a man rather than what he looks like or what he doesn’t have. Therefore in addition to him being single either through divorce or death of his spouse, what other qualities do you want in the man you want to share your life? Make up your mind before he comes so that the goal post will be properly positioned from the beginning. Don’t because you want to get married, pretend about certain things; be truthful to yourself at your inabilities and abilities. It will help you and the man you want talk frankly about your expectations from each other and in the relationship. You need to do this not just for yourself but for your daughters who will be affected also by the choice you make now. And to you male readers, who qualify; please get in touch with her through me. Good luck.