My affair with a married man makes me feel guilty

With Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com,Tel: 08054500626

Dear Agatha,
I want to get out of my current relationship. The man I am in love with is married and I always feel guilty when we are together but it is so difficult to let go because I truly love him.
What should I do?
Confused Lover.

Dear Confused Lover,
There is no future in this relationship. Let him go! The more you stay around him, the longer you delay your chance of meeting the right man. Besides, if you tarry for too long, your time and season may just pass you by before you realise it.
Try putting yourself in his wife’s shoes; how will you feel if another woman is denying you the joy of marriage as well as the presence of your husband? Just as you won’t be happy, this woman isn’t. You are causing her pains and her children deprivation. The time and money their father would have given them, you are taking.
If you truly love this man, encourage him to go. Ask him to try to imagine his wife having an affair with another man. If he can imagine the pains of having his wife in another man’s arms, then he should imagine how his wife would feel by his betrayal of their marriage vows.
Every love story that doesn’t end in marriage always has a sad feeling. Doubtless, you will feel some sort of emotional pains leaving him but when you consider the fact that you have more to lose than gain, you will listen to that inner voice that is making you feel guilty and uncomfortable with the knowledge that you are chipping away the foundation of another woman’s happiness.
In addition, the man can revoke the same reasons he has for being unfaithful to his wife whenever he gets tired of you and needs to move on. If he can afford to be unfaithful to his wife, there is nothing stopping him from concurrently dating other girls alongside you.
Even if his wife is failing in her responsibilities at home, he should teach her what he wants, not have affairs.
Don’t worry about what you feel now, you will overcome it. By the time you meet the right man, the one who will treat you as his queen, you will wonder what you ever saw in this married man.
When next he calls, tell him you are no longer interested in continuing the relationship with him. You will only hurt for a few days.
Good luck.