My baggy breasts irritate me

Dear Agatha, 

I am 20 years of age and have breasts size that is embarrassing me. I want my breasts to be normal size. What do I do?

Chinasa

Dear Chinasa, 

The first thing you must do is to learn to appreciate the body that God gave you or you end up with a complex that could drive you into a situation you would later regret.

At 20, you still have a long way to go in life, and one of the things you need to go far is confidence in who you are. Besides, there is no perfect size anywhere. The fabled perfect size is a creation of someone’s imagination and desire to control what others think about their bodies. Your imperfection could be another’s ideal shape.

One of the important things you need to learn in life is self-contentment. It is life’s essential kit if you want to make it in life. Don’t try to apologise for who you are else others would take advantage of it to humiliate you to tears. Life is too short and beautiful to live it in the thinking of another person.

So what if the majority says your breasts are the wrong shape and size? As long as they are a healthy pair, these are the things that make you unique. Often than not, individuality is not about the general but about the specifics. 

Unless you want to go under the knife to recreate your pair, with the right kind of bras, you can achieve the kind of looks with your breasts that you want. If they are too big, a good support bra would nicely mould them to stand firm and sexy while smaller pair can be enhanced with the right kind of padded bra. Also the cut of bras too are essential in causing the right kind of effects. If you don’t know what to do, go to a bra shop. Some of them have experts that will not only help measure your accurate size but give you useful hints on how to package your best assets as a woman. 

The delight of a woman’s body is usually not about the shape but how it is packaged. The trick of attractive packaging is to draw attention to one’s best feature and away from one’s uncomfortable zones. 

The right kind of blouses and skirts can either help accentuate what you want attention to be on. If your breasts are embarrassing you, don’t wear any blouse or gown cut that would put attention there. 

Look critically at the mirror to know your best feature. If they are your eyes, mouth or legs, learn to play them up. That way you will help build your confidence to face the cynicism that the life stage is.