I Have Feminine Qualities

Dear Agatha

Thanks for being there for

us.

I am a 15-year-old student of Federal Government College, Ilorin.

My story is a long and pathetic one that I fear time won’t allow me to fully share my problem with you as I would have liked to. But Agatha, the summary of it is that I behave like a girl instead of the boy I am meant to be and worst of it is that I have a bent neck. It makes me a sorry sight. I am seriously thinking of committing suicide. I am tired of this life.

Abdulmajeed.

 Dear Abdulmajeed,

You don’t have to kill yourself because life is worth a living. God did not make a mistake in the way he created you. Look beyond your physical limitations and value all the good things God has blessed you with.

A lot of the time the things we place much premium on are actually those things that do not matter. We place so much worth on appearance than what God has embedded in us. God is Mr. Perfect Himself so if He created you with some deformity, it is because He has a reason to.

What are those areas you excel in? Discover them and use them to your advantage in life. There are many examples of successful physically challenged people around. They are living and shaming the so-called physically perfect people with their astonishing success. They didn’t throw in the towel by contemplating suicide. Rather than feel sorry for themselves like you are doing, they challenged their situation and story with that special thing God in His wisdom deposited in them.

Because God knows that your special form needs an additional special talent to sail through life with ease, in His wisdom, He must have invested in you what people with no deformity lack. But if you persist in your self pity, you will never discover what it is because pity has a way of robbing one of sense of perception and direction. You must have both senses working well to unlock the key to your special gift from God.

By the time you discover that special something in you and turn it round into a goldmine, those that today are making fun of you or have rejected you would be the first set of human beings to identify with you. Go to God in prayers for His direction and leading. As for your feminine tendency, it is a psychological problem that needs expert handling. Go to a specialist hospital, perhaps a government hospital nearest to you and request to see a clinical psychologist.

If you refuse to be put down by the attitude of others, nobody can put you down. Always have it at the back of your mind that you are too important to God to be ignored by men. In His presence you are precious and of too much value.

Suicide would not only disappoint God, but make you lose what is important at the end of the day – God’s blessing He took time to invest in you. If you learn to treat yourself with dignity, people will treat you with dignity, but if you allow them to see pity in your eyes, chances are they will always strive to put you down.

Good luck.