Re: My wife of 30 years betrayed me

With Auntie Agatha gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com, Tel: 08054500626 Dear Agatha, Thank you so much for the work you are doing. Please keep it up. It’s one point of interest when ever I want to read Nigerian Newspapers. As per above, my brother in the picture need to re-examine himself and put his priority aright. One problem with humanity, we are often very quick to judge another without first putting ourselves in their shoes. One fact that I learnt over time in the western world is that hardly do we see and admit that the values and perspectives we held while in Nigeria have changed over time since sojourning in a strange land. Another point from his reply; do not really point out family as a priority before money to take care of the family. If money can buy a loving united family, he has tried that. Twelve years is too long a time for spouses (married) to be apart regardless of what. The only solution that can clean the mess created is to honestly accept responsibility, make up with his wife and children as soon as possible. Marrying another wife is never going to be a solution but duplicates his troubles. Frankly, the wife wronged him but it takes the manner in which the man goes about resolving this problem in humility and graces to forgive his wife that will lead the wife to humbly accept her fault and make amends because devil who is the deceiver and destroyer of families will magnify anything to paint the wrong picture. If they make amend, naturally, things may not be the same but it will be better than the trouble of another wife down the road. I had a somehow different but similar kind of situation recently. My girl, who is my wife today was with me in 1997. We met at a younger age and though I fell in love with her, we parted for about twelve years without any form of contact. Luckily, we were all sure God meant us to be one. Somehow I left Nigeria without her knowledge and I didn’t know about her where about too. But we all hang our hope in God and God brought us together at the 12th year. Do you know that though we were not “dating or married” that time, we had our different share of temptations? Let him make up his mind quickly whether to choose marrying another wife with attendant headache with bundles of troubles in future coming from his “new” wife to be, his “old” wife and children or to swallow his ego, pride and pain while amending with his wife and children. Forgiveness is all that is needed to heal the inflicted wounds and bring back the glory once again. God bless you.