She craves secret date...

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Dear Agatha,
You are really helping people. Please help me too to get out of my emotional dilemma.
I am a 24-year-old second year Higher National Diploma student. My girlfriend and I have been together for five months. We are both in love but I find it very strange that she doesn’t want any of her friends to find out about us.
I really love her and I want something good to come out of our relationship. Please tell me what I should say to her to make her change her mind about telling our friends about us. I would appreciate your response.
Junior Boy.

Dear Junior Boy,
To get her to change her mind you must first understand her reasons for wanting to keep the relationship secret. Obviously something must be influencing her decision. This is what you should first find out from her by questioning her on her past experiences and why she prefers a secret relationship with you when all you want is to proclaim her to the world.
Without you finding this out, you will never be able to appreciate her or wisdom to find the right word to make her change her mind.
Most times our reasons for doing or not doing a particular thing is pasted in the incubator of our past.
Besides there are some people who don’t like to publicise their relationship at all. She may belong to this group. These people are of the opinion that it is private and no business of anybody except they that are in it.
To convince such persons, you must be ready to provide them with stronger arguments as well as apply a little bit of emotional blackmail to get them to shift grounds.
The emotional blackmail comes in the form of you asking her if she isn’t proud enough of you, happy with her decision to date you as well as her love for you.
These questions would make her realise that this relationship is not just about what she wants but also of what would make you happy.
It would also help her come to a better appreciation of what a relationship is all about. A relationship derives its strength from the contribution of the couple involved. She has to give you the opportunity of helping her cope with whatever phobia she has against making public her feelings while she has to give you the assurances of her trust in your love and the relationship.
Your best approach is to be patient. There is no point getting angry or agitated. To do that is to put the relationship under unnecessary stress. You must appreciate her reasons first and foremost, not to make the whole process of building a viable relationship difficult.
There are also ways of making the relationship obvious without you saying a word to anyone. From the way you court and attend to her, seek her out from the crowd, behave whenever she is around would send the signal of an intimacy around your friends.
The heart has a way of radiating its fondness and invisible music of love for a particular person for all to see and hear. True love doesn’t need the help of microphone to announce, the eyes, smiles and signals around a pair in love do more of the announcement than verbal words. I call it the secret scent of passion.
Once you are around her, the message of love between the two of you would be visible for all to see. It would be only a matter of time for people to know what is happening between the two of you.
Good luck.