Masturbation may soon mutilate my future…

With Auntie Agatha, gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com,Tel: 08054500626

Dear Agatha,

May God continue to guard and protect you for the good work you are doing for mankind.

I am 21 years of age. I started masturbating from an early age, in fact as early as age nine. And it has steadily grown worse to the point of it becoming a hobby. Even when I don’t have the inclination to I just do it for the fun of it.

What do I do to save myself from this act that has become part of me? Please I need your advice urgently as well as both the positive and negative effects of this habit on my future and me. Please I need to know. How do I get out of this mess especially now that I am going to school? I don’t want this thing to embarrass me.

Sam.




Dear Sam,

There is no contesting the fact that you have stayed too long with this habit. Definitely it would take more than a passing will to eradicate this inclination of yours from your system.

It would take a lot of discipline as well as determination to overcome. The first step is realisation that it is wrong. But to get it completely out of your mind, you must take a trip back into time you started it. Can you remember how you got into the habit as well as the purpose of it?

Do you think the reason for your preference is still valid? At what point did you begin to feel ashamed of yourself and loath the habit as well as.

You must find the equilibrium between then and now to fight it effectively.

The truth is that you are no longer nine years of age. Whatever made you go into it at that time obviously isn’t valid again. Even though it isn’t advisable for you to go into premarital sex because of the spiritual and health implications involved, you are now old enough to be intimate with a woman instead of depending on self-expression as a means of relief.

Like every other addiction it is going to take a long while to break. But you simply have to start from somewhere. And that somewhere is where you are now, the point of knowing you simply cannot continue with this habit any more.

Frankly, nothing I say can make a difference unless you are absolutely sure you want to move away from the point you are in now. It is more important for you to go to God in prayers. He is the only one at this critical point in your life that has all it takes to help you.

Follow with a spirit of submission to His will. When you are obedient, you will know what to avoid as well as what way you should go. One thing is to masturbate when the urge comes on another thing is to do it as a hobby not having the will to stop, take cognizance of where you are and not minding the consequences of what you are doing.

According to statistics, most men of adult age had at one time or the other engaged in masturbation either as fun or get relief when their partners aren’t around. At times too it occurs naturally when there is an abundance of sperm in the testicles.

Sometimes the urge comes from watching adult films or lusting after a female body. The onus is on you to find out why you are still doing it. Honestly if you do and make up your mind to leave it, you can, by diverting your mind away from your body at all times.

You can achieve this by trying as much as possible to avoid the signs that bring on the urge to touch your body. One of the most effective ways of beating the habit is to ensure you have people staying around you, someone or people you know has/have a strong will to resist should you decide to engage in your hobby. Such persons must have a measure of control over you, someone you have tremendous respect for and who has the maturity to keep quiet about it.

Because you have stayed too long with this habit, whatever positive benefits it has, has been defeated. Now its negativity is such if you don’t stop now it would be very difficult for any woman to please you in the bedroom. Also you would have time coping with her timing as you have over the years structured your body to your own timing and pleasures.

This is going to be the major challenge; learning to teach your body all over again to go the natural way.

You may also consider taking on a sport that would drain you of your energy, both mentally and spiritually. This way you would just be too tired to think of anything but sleep. Reading the words of God would also help in removing your mind from the pleasures and demands of your body.

Good luck.