Seven Men At My Skirt, But Choice…

Dear Agatha,

I am having a challenge on how to choose a partner. Currently, I have six young men requesting for my hand in marriage as well as a sugar daddy also wants me in his life. What do I do? The man is about 20 years older than I am, but has no wife though he has a daughter. I am 25 years of age. 

Worried lady.

 

Dear Worried Lady,

This isn’t just a matter of you having the numbers of men in your life, but knowing what you want from life.

At 25, you are in your prime and like a beautiful butterfly bound to attract the best of attention from every eye that beholds you.

It is the time when womanhood is at its most intoxicating, powerful and enchanting. It is the time most women think they have the whole world at their feet, when they get to play court to as many men as possible, young and old.

But it is also the most delicate time in a young woman’s life, the time she is most susceptible to making the worst kind of mistake. So be warned as not to allow the thrills of this moment make you become haughty and deaf to well intentioned counsel. Remember this, you stay in the spotlight is temporary, so make the best and wise use of it because you may never get this chance again.

Therefore, you must have a plan, an idea of what kind of man has the power to keep you happy in the choice you eventually make.

Retreat from all these men temporarily will enable you take care of very personal matters first. Out of all these men, who among them has that special thing to permanently engage your interest in the relationship? Which of them has the right kind of temperament, is understanding, your friend, caring, supportive, appreciative, loyal, patient, God-fearing and is loyal? These are the inner qualities that make a huge difference in life.

Resist the urge for physical and material considerations, all these would eventually fade away and settle for the one with the most precious qualities that keep relationship going.

You can only get the right kind of answer if you are honest with yourself. Remember this is a proposal for a lifetime journey, one you are not expected to get out from. Hence you need a good friend with whom you can discuss, share your thoughts and secrets with, joke with as well as make fun of to make the journey of two complete strangers coming together more manageable, enjoyable and enduring. 

As long as you allow the will of God prevail by being forthright, there is no way you won’t be happy in your eventual choice.

Good luck.