Months Into Our Affairs, She Started Growing Wings…

Dear Agatha,

I am a guy of 25 in a relationship that is over a year. At first, we were madly in love, and hardly staying a day without seeing each other. But six months into the relationship, her character changed towards me.

When I confronted her with this, she denied and insisted everything that she was all right.  She later got admission into Enugu State University (ESUT) and left me for three months, though she kept in touch. She came home last month and I noticed to my dismay that she had changed for the worst. From her attitude it is obvious she doesn’t care about me anymore. She doesn’t bother to call or send me text messages anymore, despite the fact that I call her up to three times a day due to the love I have for her.

I need your advice on whether to continue, despite her uncaring attitude or quit the relationship.

Mentor.

Dear Mentor,

It takes two to have a relationship. If you insist on continuing it would be akin to having a relationship with yourself. Since she has made her new state of mind about you obvious enough.

There is always a time and season for everything. For now, it might be wise if you give her a little space for her to make up her mind about what she wants. To continue to call when she is going through this emotional uncertainty is to present yourself a nuisance to her. If care isn’t taken, she may begin to avoid your calls, become rude to you or tell you outright that you are hounding. For the sake of tomorrow and the beauty of what you both shared in the past, make the painful sacrifice of allowing her be for now. Don’t worry, if she is yours, she will definitely come back to you after the excitement of her new admirers die down.

In her current mood, there is nothing you do or say to her that would hold the thrills of all the other attentions she is getting. You have done your bit, presented evidence of your love to her, when she is ready for your kind of love, she would come back.

Move on to other things, but give yourself time to heal properly before beginning another relationship. This is necessary to avoid regrets and mistakes that come with hasty decisions.

Good luck.