What Causes Lost Of Virginity Without Blood?

Dear Agatha,

I am an ardent reader of your column and I have this problem that has been bothering me for quite a while now.

For over five years now I have been suffering from a whitish and offensive discharge from my private part. It causes me to itch terribly. I have been taking treatments from three different drugstores. Once I commence treatment, it would disappear for a month or two only to resurface after.

Secondly, I was a virgin when my fiancé deflowered me at 26.

To my greatest shame and surprise there was that no blood flow to indicate I was still a virgin as at the time he deflowered me.

I suspect that the whitish flow from my vagina may be responsible.

If not please tell me what to do concerning the whitish flow and the cause of no blood flow when I was deflowered.

Rossy.

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Dear Rossy,

Five years of living with an offensive, itchy discharge from your virginal and all you do is to go to drugstores for treatment?

What would it cost you to seek proper medical help from the hospital? What do you know is wrong with you? What types of drugs are you taking? What are you being treated of by these pharmacists running the drugstores? How have you coped with the embarrassment of the uncontrolled itches as well as the offensive odour oozing from your body?

Do you realise the implication of this delay on your reproductive health? Do you know the extensive damage you are courting by your carelessness and apparent ignorance with which you are treating this condition? Do you realise you could end up becoming sterile as a result of delayed treatment?

Granted, it could have started like all other female itches but your refusal to seek proper medical attention for good five years may have complicated the situation.

Before anything can be done, urgently seek medical attention first to know what is wrong with you and the possibility of complications arising from late and proper treatment. The fact that the problem keeps recurring after taking the prescribed drugs should have alerted you to the presence of something beyond what an off the shelf virginal tablet or cream can handle.

A woman’s body due to its peculiar nature houses a lot of discharges. The particular time of the month dictates the type of discharges that flow from the virginal. These discharges neither itch nor give off offensive odour.

Once these discharges become offensive, it is an indication that something is wrong somewhere and that the woman should immediately see her doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment.

Frankly, your worry about the lack of blood spot at your initiation into womanhood is rather misplaced. This should not bother you as much as you finding a cure to your medical condition because sooner or later your fiancé would begin to question the state of your health and hygiene as a woman.

Once he begins to, chances of you two being together is doubtful especially if he doesn’t understand the nature of such discharges.

The issue of your personal hygiene is also important and could be another reason the discharges have refused to go. If you continue to wear the same pants you have used over the years even after getting the right kind of treatment, you will suffer a relapse because some of the bacteria that give rise to these conditions can survive tough weather conditions. This may explain the continued reoccurrence of the condition after it disappears for a month or two.

Once your treatment is complete, please change all your under-wears and preferably avoid nylon pants or tight fitting trousers. They discourage ventilation into the body, thereby encouraging the growth of bacteria or fungi infection in the private region of the body.

One personal habit you must also develop is to learn to soak your under-wears overnight in clean soapy water. If you live in a not very clean environment, iron them before wearing. It will help kill all the germs that may have survived the washing process.

On the issue of blood spot during your introduction to womanhood, not all women have the privilege of showing blood. A physically active woman can have her seal broken before her initiation. The seal covering a woman’s entrance is a delicate thin cover, which can easily break under the pressure of a strenuous exercise, insertion of tampons or the use of some of the virginal tablets that may have been recommended for you to cure your discharges.

However, an experienced man would know despite the absence of blood spot, from the tone of the woman’s body that she is a virgin. Her passage would still retain its tightness.

It is in your interest you go immediately to see a doctor and make sure you go to one that has the equipment to do a proper clinical examination of your body.

Good luck.