Four Men At My Skirt, Three Seek Sex As Collateral

Dear Agatha,

I am in love with four men. Three of them are always demanding for sex from me before they can help me.

Please tell me what to do.

Confused Lady.

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Dear Confused Lady,

Do you even understand the ABC of the word love? If you do, there is no way you can say you are concurrently in love with four men. Love is something serious, special and exquisite. It cannot be duplicated on demand. What you feel for these men is lust and greed for what you can get from them, not anything special, hence your ability to invest your emotions in all the four of them with the ease with which you breath.

If they are demanding sex from you before they can assist you, it is because you have also not presented yourself as a woman who is responsible at all. What man would take a woman whose hobby seems to be acquiring men serious? They know what your agenda is, hence they want you to pay in kind before parting with what you demand of them.

You are making the mistake a lot of young girls are making on numbers (of men) as security. The only guarantee to a successful relationship is a heart of sacrifice, which a lot of young girls like you are not willing to do.

It would be so unfortunate if through your own carelessness, you throw away the one man God specially designed for you. No man, who is interested enough in keeping you for a wife, would have the tolerance to stay around you for long going by your current lifestyle.

Whatever your reasons are, it is in your interest to do away with these numbers of men and learn to live within the means of your income. The danger of you continuing in your present lifestyle goes beyond your immediate wants into your far future, the time when you can’t do anything to reverse the consequences of your current trend of living. What do you think would happen if you get pregnant now? What certainty and confidence would you have to name any of these men as being responsible? At any rate do you think any of them would come forward to accept a pregnancy from you knowing there are other men too in your life? You may think none of these men know you aren’t faithful to them, but these are things that never stay under the carpet, because there are always interested eyes and itching mouths to spill the beans.

There is no way any of these men would give you what you want, because as a person you don’t even know what it is you are looking for in a man. In your current state of mind, you would be unable to recognise love if you see one, thereby increasing the danger of you helping to destroy your future.

For you to recognise the agenda of any man who crosses your path, you must first have a clear focus of what you want and the qualities to look out for in them.

If you had, you would not have said yes to four men concurrently in your life.

To help yourself get out of this confusion, please do away with all these men first to enable you reflect properly on precisely what you want from life, have a dream as well as the drive to achieve the dream. Do this first before saying yes to any man. It will resolve the issue of the confusion that drove you into the arms of all these men as well as build up the all-important issue of your dignity.

Importantly learn to pray to prevent the greater calamity of allowing greed to destroy your life.

Good luck.