My Teenage Friend Turns Up For Renewed Deal

Dear Agatha,

I pray that you will reap the fruit of your labour here on earth for the good things you are doing to solve people's problems. I will be 30 late this year and there is this guy who happens to be my first love but because we were young then, were unable to manage the challenges of our religious differences, he being a Muslim and I a Christian.

However, we met again late last year and he expressed the willingness to continue from where we stopped several years ago. I am scared because then I was a virgin and I am no longer one. Besides, I am of the opinion that he only wants to have a taste of me and leave.

Agatha, to tell you the truth, I like him especially as we no longer have the burden of religious differences.

I am so confused and need your help.

Worried Girl.

---

Dear Worried Girl,

What makes you think he is after only your body? If this is true, why are you even considering him?

Although as an adult woman you reserve the right to do whatever you please with your body, the fact remains, you will be the one who will get hurt in the process if you are aware of his intentions and still go ahead to oblige him with a relationship.

At your age, you must be able to account for whatever you do. Why would you go into a relationship with a man who has nothing more on his agenda but that of having the privilege of your body? Is that what you are looking for, a man to add you to his list of conquests?

Shouldn’t you be focused now in life especially as you are itching towards that age when all women take stock of their early years especially if unmarried? This is not time for you to be making hasty and sentimental decisions, choices that will not pay you at all.

If you must go into this relationship both of you need to sit to discuss the future of the relationship since you both have a past together. Be bold to ask specific questions as well as discuss your suspicions. It is also pertinent you ask about his current status and even if single, his love life.

Like you, he has a past. These pasts have to be discussed to enable both of you know the platforms you are coming from and where you are going from the point you met again. Your story would tell him everything he needs to know about your body state as well as plans for the future.

Submitting to him on his conditions without first discussing the health of the relationship will eventually turn that likeness of yours to pains and eventually disappointment.

You can only be happy if you know what to look out for in the process of seeking happiness.

Good luck.