Can Single Lady Pass Night With Her Boyfriend?

Dear Agatha,

Is it advisable for a single lady to pass the night in her boyfriend’s house to please him?

Confused Lady.

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Dear Confused Lady,

It isn’t advisable for a single lady to spend the night in her boyfriend’s house to please him. This is because until you are both married, there is no guarantee that you both would end as one. The losses to the woman after investing her body, emotion as well as reputation to a stillbirth relationship are too numerous to mention.

A man has nothing to lose in the long run whereas a woman loses her everything. Her value in the opinion of others, especially men who may be interested in taking her for a wife dips by the time it is known that she spends nights in the house of her former boyfriend.

The assumption is always negative for the woman as she is regarded not having moral training or values.

Even though this assumption is often not right, but the thought of a single girl having the liberty to leave her parents’ house for her boyfriend’s house in the night is still regarded down here as not morally acceptable.

In other cultures, it may not be so much of a big deal but ours is a society still largely governed by deep moral codes that make it absolutely improper for a single lady to spend the night in her boyfriend’s house.

Ultimately, it boils down to a couple’s value. If the man feels that spending the night is the only way a woman can prove her love, it means a lot of things are wrong with the relationship.

Building of a relationship goes beyond the physical to more fundamental as well as spiritual qualities. A couple may have all the technical know-how when it comes to lovemaking but lack the essential ingredients in other areas. These issues are too important to be solved by a couple spending the night together or not.

Rather than waste energy on this issue, it is advisable you and your boyfriend concentrate on your compatibilities as individuals as a couple. The logic of spending the night together would be defeated if at the end of the day every other piece is defective and the relationship has to be terminated.

How many men can you afford to spend the night with before you find your own man? What makes one man desire to spend the night with you would also make another man demand your presence by his side through the night.

Relationship is a two-way traffic. It doesn’t work successfully with just one person made to make all the sacrifices. Both parties must invest their interests, concern and responsibilities to make it work well. He should be concerned about your reputation if he really cares about you.

It isn’t only when you agree to spend the night in his place, you would please him. You please him by being faithful to him, respectful, caring, understanding, trustful, prayerful as well as giving him your loyalty.

These are more viable and beneficial ways of telling your man you love him not by spending the nights with him.

Good luck.