Will I Ever Get Better Man As A Lady Crawler?

Dear Agatha,

Do staying out late at night and frequently visit shows cut me out as indecent? I want to be educated on the things a lady should do to keep her man.

Lola

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Dear Lola,

No decent lady stays out late in the night without a known reason for doing that. Such lady can ever be considered as being responsible. What on earth would any woman be doing out so late? Even career women who have understandable grounds to stay out beyond the normal working hours have problems defending their honour. How much more a woman who has no business staying out so late into the night?

Our society and even those societies considered advanced are rigid about certain things. And when it comes to women all agree that some behaviours don't conform to the roles of women in the society.

More so, as a young girl, you have no business staying out late. Not only because you would be counted among the morally bankrupt ones in the society but for your safety as well. Who would save you from molestations in the night or vouch for your credibility if law enforcement agents arrest you along side criminals or women of easy virtues late in the night?

By the time you add night clubbing to staying out late, you would have only succeeded in nailing your moral coffin. There is no way anybody would regard you as decent. It doesn't come from what you are not doing but from the deep perception people have from time immemorial about those who nurture this type of lifestyle. This draws power from the activities that take place in the places. In any place where alcohol rules, misbehaviour is deemed to be the order of the day.

Society may be wrong but until something different happens to change the image of night crawlers, indecent is the name of the game especially for women who engage in the act because in such place alcohol and common sense are strange bedfellows.

There is no way any man would take a woman who is notorious for patronising clubs and stays out late home to his parents.

So, for you to keep any man, you must first expunge this habit from your daily life. If you don't have any compelling reason to stay out late, come home and learn to be a good homemaker. Learn to cook, wash clothes, and keep your home and environment clean as well as becoming your own best friend.

To be able to give happiness to another person, you have to first learn to be happy, be at peace with yourself, and learn to appreciate the good in you, I mean, celebrating the love of God for you. This is because you cannot give what you don't have. To keep a man by your side, you have to begin by discovering whom you are to know what to appreciate in your mate.

Good luck.