Dear Agatha,
I am writing this in serious pains because the girl I prayed about and convinced as being the right woman for me has opted for another guy.
I am really confused by all these and wondered if true love really exists. I love this girl to my marrows and those around me can testify to my love for her.
I am above 25 years of age, just finished from the university and awaiting my National Youth Service Corps posting.
Agatha, help me because I can’t think straight and cannot handle this situation on my own.
James V.
Dear James V,
Isn’t obvious from what has happened that she can’t be the right woman for you and that you must have misinterpreted the content of the answers to your prayers?
Often, when we pray with a motive which we are determined to have, we tend to deafen our ears to the right answers. At that point rather than accept what the Holy Spirit is transmitting, we begin to impute logic and reason as to why the answers must go our way.
One thing is to desire something; another thing is for one’s desires to have the blessings and support of God. Often times, His wills and ways don’t agree with what we want because He has the authority and powers to see thousand light years far more than we would ever be. Being our creator, He knows everything about us than we do. He knows what is always best for us and those He has assigned the task of helping us to achieve those things He has planned for us.
On our own authority we are nothing but a heap of sand and raw clay. From nothing He made us what and who we are. So I am sure if you had listened to the right words from the Holy Spirit, accepted His leading, you won’t be experiencing this emotional pains and aches.
The solution is for you to go back to your source and helper of all ages. That woman you think is perfect may at the end of the day become your doom which is why He helped eased her out of your life the way He did when you refused to listen to Him.
Frankly, count yourself lucky because many men who made the same mistake you were about to make are today wishing they could turn back the hands of the clock. Unlike you, God allowed them to go ahead with their mistakes only for them to realise what costly choice they have made moments after they sign the dotted lines.
Even though you ignored His instructions for you, He had to find another way of enforcing His right choice for you because from the beginning you called on Him. His words are more precious to Him than His name.
Rather than cry over what was never meant to be, celebrate the essence of God in your life and affairs. To appreciate what He has done, do a little bit of investigations within the marriages you know and you would be surprised at how the wrong choice of a partner can completely derail a person for life.
Marriage doesn’t strive only on sentiments but on hard facts about life itself because it encompasses the body, spirit and soul. No institution in life has that power to touch and influence the three essences of man. When one gets married to the right or wrong person; so many things change in that person’s life forever. If the partner is the right one, the soul and spirit are positively enhanced for success as well as for supernatural breakthroughs but if the choice is a wrong one, the damage to one’s soul, spirit as well the physical appearance is permanent.
A lot of couples having affairs outside their homes didn’t intend to but wrong choices of partners forced them into the hands of others in quest of happiness which have eluded them in their marriages. Is that what you want later in life and in your marriage? When the heart seeks emotional happiness it can do anything to achieve it. In your interest, allow the will of God to prevail because it is the only way you can be happy.
Rather than dwell on what would have been, go back to God in prayers, this time, listen patiently to what He is telling you as well as take the instructions on how to go about it. What you entrust into His hands never go bad because He is never too early, too late but always on time to meet our every needs.
When the time comes for you to meet your ideal woman, He would tell you but you have to know what you want from life as well as in a woman to avoid making another mistake.
Good luck.
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