Dear Agatha,
I have three lovely fiancés who have all proposed marriage to me. The problem is, I don’t know whom to pick among them, as they are all ready to settle down.
Worried Girl.
Dear Worried Girl,
Three fiancés? The issue here is, are you ready to settle down? Do you understand what commitment is and settling down involves?
For that matter what do you understand by the word fiancé? What does relationship mean to you? Is it for you a jolly ride or something more responsible?
There is no way you will not be confused because you never had any idea of your ideal man in the first place. Whatever led you to keeping three men at the same time may hamper your ability to settle for the right man if you don’t first take time out to reflect on the qualities you want in a man and what would keep you faithful to one man.
You first have to grow the habit of faithfulness else you may end up being unable to keep your marriage vows to your husband. This is imperative because the ability to be faithful doesn’t grow on the tree overnight. It takes nurturing, perseverance, patience, understanding as well as determination to grow.
From your records, you clearly lack any of these attributes; so going into marriage with any of these men would not only destroy the faith of these men in other women but also give you a reputation you may not be proud of at the end of the day.
If you can sort out the problem you have with yourself, values and wants, it would be easier for you to know which of these men can make you absolutely happy.
Good luck.
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