Dear Agatha,
Please tell me how to love my boyfriend; I do not feel anything but I want to because he is nice, and I don’t want to hurt him.
Edith.
Dear Edith,
There is no faking true love. It is either you have it or not and no matter how much you seek to protect this man from being hurt now, you will eventually hurt him more when he finds out that he has been wasting his time with you.
The danger of this is; he would hate you for playing him for a fool. Even though love is an emotional thing, when treated with too much sentiment, it causes pains and setbacks. It will get to a point, you will no longer be able to carry on with the pretences especially if you eventually fall in love with someone else. It is a natural thing for one to gravitate towards a fond heart. By the time you discover yourself in love with another person, your true feeling for him would unmask itself making it obvious to him that there was no time you ever felt the things he did for you. Then it would appear as if you jilted him for a new lover.
The best you can do for this man is to be honest with him so he can move on with other things.
Tell him you wished you could work up the right feelings for him because of his nice nature. Assure him that there is nothing wrong with him just that when it comes to the issue of love, who one falls in love with cannot be helped.
This way, you both would be able to retain your friendship.
Good luck.
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