He’s My Kind Of Man But Too Holy!

Dear Agatha,

I need your help. I am a girl of 21 but never experienced true love. All those I have met are not my taste. In my chapel at school there is this brother who has it all, but the problem is that he is too holy.

Vikk.

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Dear Vikk,

What do you consider as being too holy? Is it a crime to serve God and belief in His ways? What are your own attitudes towards the things of God? Do you consider it a huge disadvantage for him to be holy?

What makes you think he is the right one for you? Are you sure that isn’t the attraction for you? Often time, the forbidden things have the strongest attractions.

Before you move out to him, please ask yourself about your motive? What are you looking for in a relationship and this man? is it pure sex or friendship?

If you are seeking for friendship, it shouldn’t bother you too much if he appears so holy after all the essence of friendship is to understand and help the one who is a friend to develop to the fullest. To be a good friend, you must first offer yourself a platform to appreciate the uniqueness in yourself else, it would be difficult to recognize the exceptionality in another person. What you think is a fault in this man may end up being his rarest asset.

Being clear about your motive is to prevent regrets on both your parts especially yours later in life.

Until you get close to someone, you can’t tell who that person really is. The first thing to do is to try to be friends with him. Getting to know him at close quarters would give you the opportunity to adjudge objectively. We often don’t get the right opinion about people from a distance.

Once you are friends, every other thing will fall perfectly into place.

Good luck.