Dear Agatha,
There is this lady whom I love so much. I respect her so much because she made the first move. Her father and my uncle are very good friends. But the issue here is she is a Muslim while my family is Christian. My father is even an usher in the church.
What may I do?
Emma.
Dear Emma,
When true love happens it is blind to religious sentiments. Your father is the usher not you; her father is a Muslim yes, but what does she want? In approaching you, she knew you were a Christian, given the relationship between your families and your father’s position in the church.
Still she came to offer her love for you. The issue is not her or your parents for that matter but you! She has made clear her choice, a clear signal that she is ready to sink and swim with you. Are you ready to stand up for her, make the same sacrifices and declaration for her? Or do you prefer to hide under your parents to hurt her?
The answer to your question is etched deep in your heart. What do you feel for this lady? Can you stand up for her any day? Is your love strong enough to stand the text of time, to protect her against whatever oppositions you may encounter with your family or hers for that matter?
This is the time for you to look deep in your heart to find answers to some nagging questions that have been agitating your mind all these while. If you were to go after her on your own, would you have considered dating a girl like her? Does she really fall within the category of women you like? Do you find her an interesting person that you see yourself spending the rest of your life with? Do you think she has what it takes to keep you permanently happy and contented within the bounds of marriage? Can you call her your friend and confidant? Where does she fit into your overall plans in life? Do you think she is capable of giving you the support to achieve an uncommon vision, has the temperament, understanding, respect and support to make you absolutely happy as a man?
Since knowing her, what special qualities have you noticed in her; something, which you know instinctively you will never find in another woman? It is only when you are very clear about what you want that you would know how to defend your love for this girl against the sentiments of your families.
Once you have the confidence in her as well as your feelings for her, it won’t be difficult for you or her to tell your parents why they must give both of you the chance to be together.
Good luck.
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