He Blames My Stinking Private Part On Fatness

Dear Agatha,

I am 21 years of age and disturbed by what my boyfriend said about my private part, which said recently smells. According to him, being on the big side could be responsible for the situation. I am seriously getting scared of losing him. What can I do about the situation? He is the only one who has told me this.

I also wonder if he loves me.

Uju.

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Dear Uju,

This issue at hand has nothing to do with whether he loves you or not but that of your health and personal hygiene.

Rather than worry or debate his feelings towards you, it is important you go to a gynecologist first whose duty would be to examine you for any infections or illness that may be lurking in your body.

As a woman, you should be able to tell when you do not smell well. Granted that the female body goes through various stages during the month but an unpleasant smell is one an observant woman cannot miss.

One of the best ways to know if your body condition isn’t healthy is from the pants. When you pull off your pants, can you withstand the smell of it? Is it the spicy kind or the offensive pungent kind that smells like rotten fish?

Unlike the mouth odour where the person involved may not know, the offensive nature of the virginal odour is such that it cannot be missed.

Unless you aren’t truthful with yourself, you must be able to tell when something isn’t right with your body odour. If other men in your life haven’t said anything to you, it is only because they don’t have a stake in your well being. They are only out to get what they want from you in the heat of the moment.

This man must care for you sufficiently to risk his relationship with you by pointing out the obvious. Only a true friend can do what he has done. Lot of men rather than tell you what the problem is with you as a woman, would prefer a live-broadcast of it. Even if he doesn’t care for you in the special way you want him to, it is obvious he cares sufficiently for your happiness and reputation to have told you that. His motive would have been questionable if you had an audience but telling you privately showed that you couldn’t afford to ignore his complaints.

The presence of virginal odour could also come from bad hygiene on your part. If you are used to dirty habits and unwholesome hygiene, you really may not know if you smell or not. This is because your olfactory organs have been conditioned by unhealthy lifestyle to ignore offensive smells.

Once the doctor is able to eliminate the presence of any life-threatening medical condition, focus on your personal hygiene. Ask the doctors for some off the shelf feminine creams or tablets that designed to cure common feminine itches or odours. For starters, throw away all your current pants and under-wears. Invest on new ones and ensure these new ones get proper attention by way of maintenance. The best way to wash pants is to soak in warm soapy water overnight. This procedure ensures that the pants are clean when washed.

Dry in the open air to get rid of dampness from drying in enclosed places. It is also important you, from time to time, iron to further enhance their safety.

On your part, you must develop a thorough cleaning habit by scrubbing your person morning and night with sponge. Being big is not an excuse to encourage dirty habits. Stand in front of a mirror, lavishly dab a feminine hair removing cream on your pubic hair as well as the one under your armpit. Most times, pubic hair encourages the gathering of dirt. For instance, if not properly washed could trap in stubborn blood beads during the monthly flow, in the same way it collects all other flows from the inner virginal.

These collections of discharges turn offensive after a while due to lack of care and attention. However, there would be no place for these various fluid collections to stay if there is no hair in the pubic area to trap them in.

Thereafter, invest in a good feminine wash and deodorant specially designed for that region of the body. And when around the house and it is not that time of the month, you can go pant-less to enable air circulate through the body.

Another thing you can do is to invest on panty liners. They help keep your pants in perfect condition since they absorb all telltale discharges that could discolour the pants or give off unpleasant odours after a while.

The hair under your armpit too must go as it aid body odour. It is also in your interest to invest on a bath brush, preferably the one with long handles to help scrub your back in those areas where your hands cannot reach.

Since you are trying to evolve a sanitary lifestyle, ensure you bath twice a day, morning and night. And learn to pay attention to your special areas just as you must wipe after each use of the toilet. A woman must never be without tissue to wipe when she urinates.

Feminine hygiene is simply about going the extra mile.

If you are in Lagos please see me.

Good luck.